You Are Killing Your Queen
- J.MORENO
- Oct 13
- 4 min read
When a man loses his purpose, he unconsciously feeds on a woman’s energy to feel alive!
In this blog, I talk about how today’s men are draining their relationships through emotional dependence, instability, and lack of direction, and offers grounded steps to rise back into true masculine leadership.
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The Modern Man Has Forgotten His Fire
Let’s be honest, a lot of men today are lost.
We’ve become soft where it matters and hard where it doesn’t.
We chase validation instead of vision, attention instead of alignment.
We scroll instead of study. We flirt instead of focus.
We crave feminine energy because we’ve abandoned our own masculine direction.
Too many of us are drifting through life, numb, passive, disconnected. And when we finally meet a woman who feels alive, we mistake her light for our purpose.
We lean on her to feel something, not realizing we’re slowly draining the very softness we were drawn to.
A woman cannot rest when a man has no purpose.
She starts carrying his emotional weight, until her body stays, but her soul withdraws.
That’s not love… That’s a man starving for meaning, feeding on the energy of someone trying to love him.
1. Stop Waiting for Her to Awaken You
“You cannot inspire a man into his masculine, he must choose it.” -J.Moreno
No woman can make you a man.
She can see your greatness, but she can’t give it to you.
Her nurturing was never meant to replace your discipline.
When you depend on her motivation, you drain her life force.
The more she gives, the less you grow. The more she mothers you, the less she can desire you.
King move:
Sit in silence until your purpose speaks.
Stop escaping your own stillness.
Discipline isn’t punishment, it’s the structure your soul craves.
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2. Leadership Is Love in Motion
“Love cannot live where leadership is absent.”
Without purpose, love turns chaotic.
A woman cannot soften into a man who lacks direction.
She needs your clarity, not your confusion.
When you hesitate, she compensates. When you drift, she starts steering.
But the moment she has to lead both of you, attraction begins to die.
King move:
Lead yourself first.
Be a man of your word.
Let your consistency speak louder than your emotions.
When you lead from alignment, she feels safe enough to rest.
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3. Stop Making Her Your Mission
“Her nurturing cannot birth your discipline.”
When your only purpose is her, you’ve already lost yourself.
She can walk beside you, but not become your why.
Your mission must exist before and beyond her, or she’ll start to feel like your keeper instead of your companion.
King move:
Reconnect with what gives your life meaning.
Build something sacred, not for approval, but for fulfillment.
A woman feels most drawn to a man who is already fulfilled by his own purpose.
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4. Chaos Isn’t Passion, It’s Dysregulation
“Emotional instability feels thrilling until it feels unsafe.”
We mistake emotional chaos for connection because we’ve normalized dysfunction.
But brother, constant intensity isn’t depth, it’s damage.
She may confuse it for chemistry at first, but eventually her body will see you as danger, not desire.
King move:
Master your emotions.
When triggered, don’t explode, breathe.
True power is measured by how calm you stay when everything shakes.
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5. Broke Energy Costs More Than Broke Pockets
“A broke man will often cost more than money.”
This isn’t about status, it’s about stewardship.
If you can’t manage your focus, your time, or your peace, you’ll end up poor in all three.
Your lack of direction forces her into survival mode.
And once she’s in that space, the polarity dies.
King move:
Handle your business.
Build structure around your habits, your finances, your goals.
Stability is the most underrated form of masculine attraction.
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6. Don’t Shrink, Rise
“If he’s intimidated by her power, he’ll try to shrink it.”
A man disconnected from his purpose feels threatened by strong women.
Her confidence exposes where he’s still hiding from himself.
A real man doesn’t compete with her shine, he adds to it.
King move:
Be inspired by her power, not insecure.
Let her strength remind you to grow yours.
A grounded man turns admiration into expansion, not ego.
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7. Stop Romanticizing Struggle
“Struggle love isn’t divine love.”
Pain doesn’t prove devotion.
Staying loyal to dysfunction isn’t noble, it’s avoidance dressed as loyalty.
King move:
If love drains more than it gives, it’s not love, it’s addiction.
Seek peace, not performance.
You’re allowed to love deeply without suffering.
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8. Handle Your Life So She Can “Be”
“The more you mother him, the less he desires you.”
Every time you avoid responsibility, she has to carry it.
Every time you crumble, she has to harden.
That’s how polarity dies, when she becomes your protector instead of your peace.
King move:
Take ownership of what’s yours.
Keep your promises.
Your steadiness is what allows her to stay soft.
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9. Your Purpose Is Her Protection
“A man who cannot lead himself cannot protect her.”
Protection isn’t just physical, it’s energetic.
When you’re aligned with purpose, she feels it.
Your direction becomes her safety, your discipline her trust.
King move:
Stand for something.
Live by a code.
Your mission is your fortress, and she feels safe within it.
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10. Remember Who You Are
“Queens attract kings by embodying standards, not saving potential.”
You don’t need another woman to believe in you.
You need to believe in yourself again.
Your purpose is not lost, it’s buried beneath distraction, doubt, and delay.
King move:
Return to your mission.
Rebuild your foundation.
Rise not to impress, but to embody.
When a man stands in purpose, he stops draining her light, he amplifies it.
That’s divine masculinity.
That’s how you lead with presence, not pressure.
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Final Words:
We were built for more than chasing comfort.
We were built to create, to protect, to stand for something sacred.
When you lose your purpose, you lose your power and you end up draining everyone around you, especially her.
So get back to your mission.
Get back to your discipline.
Get back to yourself.
Because a man with purpose doesn’t take from a woman’s light…
He gives her a place to shine!
Stay Masculine! 💪🏽
-J.Moreno🖤☠️
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